These 5 Things a Man Wants From You to Fall in Love With You

Maybe you’ve heard it before: Men fall in love differently than women because they function completely differently. If you want your dream man to fall in love with you and stay with you forever, he needs to experience five things with you first. He needs these things to be attracted to you.

FIND OUT WHAT HE NEEDS TO KEEP HIM WITH YOU:

1. He wants to make you feel like a hero

If you want him to feel like a hero around you, you have to do something. You have to indulge in his strengths, wherever they are.

Men want to feel their woman trusts them, which they interpret as love. That means you must learn to rely on his unique wisdom, power, and support. 

Trust is not earned, it can only be granted. Believe in His desire to serve you, to nourish you, and to urge you to your desires.

Trust that he wants the best for you and that he will always support you in any way he can. Look for the hero in your partner, recognize, adore, and appreciate this aspect. Men fall in love with women who see them as heroes.

2. He wants to feel praised, not put down

Reward good behavior and ignore bad behavior. What you give your attention to grows—it doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative attention. Don’t use leverage, criticism, or manipulation to get what you want.

Instead, invite new behavior by making demands that are associated with trust. This is the feminine way of influencing, seducing rather than forcing. 

Men hunger to be recognized for certain things – and in public if possible. Also, notice how your ego may prevent you from sharing your affirmative feedback with your husband to try to maintain influence and power. Power is not the currency of true love, but open-hearted transparency. A man needs your approval to fall fully in love with you.

3. He needs reassurance that you are the safest place in the world for him

Your arms, your eyes, your closeness – all of that must be some kind of refuge for him. You have to realize that we all have an inner child that wants to be heard and understood.

It cannot endure any more betrayal and humiliation. This inner child also has a partner within them – even if they appear strong on the outside. It can be a scary world for his inner child. 

If he doesn’t feel safe around you, he won’t choose to make a life there because he can never be “home.” However, if you are the safest place on the planet for him, then he will keep coming back to you.

You will become the safe zone for his heart’s secret needs and he will never want to leave. Also, he will automatically be less interested in other women. Wherever his eyes wander, they will always return to you. So before he falls in love, he needs reassurance that you are that one safe place for him.

4. He needs closeness and love

Who would have thought: that men need love? Love is a very important component in a relationship. When men love, they mostly show it during love. They can express their love for you at this moment.

Develop yourself and your love so that you can lead an exciting love life. It’s not just about having wild love all the time, it’s about building intimacy and trust. love can make or break a relationship.

If you want a man to choose you as his bed for the rest of his life, you must learn to enjoy love, share your needs, desires, and fantasies, and be open to listening to him. Keep reinventing your love together. If these issues surrounding love and shame are still unresolved and still need sensitive investigation, they will haunt and undermine your relationship. 

For him to truly fall in love with you, he needs love and closeness – and that builds above all on trust and transparent communication of the needs of both partners.

5. He wants to know if you’re honest

Share your fears, pain, desires, and dreams with him. In particular, show him your humanity. He is looking for a place where all his emotions can safely land. If you can’t understand and express your feelings, you definitely won’t be able to help him with his. For any relationship to work, you have to get good at “feeling.”

You don’t have to think about what you’re feeling, you have to feel sensations in your body, in your somatic space. Many men don’t know how to feel their feelings and subconsciously look to their women to teach them. A man falls in love with the woman he feels most alive with. A woman creates a field of aliveness when she experiences and expresses her emotions without justification. 

So learn to identify, map, and label your emotional states, and then practice sharing those states with him. This can be scary, but it’s a crucial skill if you want to connect with your partner’s heart over a long period.