What you can do to overcome a breakup
What to do when a loved one leaves you? In this text, we give you some practical tips on how to overcome the breakup or loss of a loved one as painlessly as possible.
Express and accept uncomfortable feelings instead of denying them and feel free to accept and express them.
Cry, talk to people you trust, and express yourself that way instead of running away, drinking, suffering, hiding, smoking, or overeating.
Expressing your sadness releases the tension you feel.
Make friends, do whatever else you do, but without coercion or overdoing it – work and go out as much as you want in the moment, don’t run away from work or getting in the mood, because so you only prolong the grief and coping with the loss.
Don’t withdraw from social life, keep in touch with people.
Find activities that keep your mind and attention engaged – this can be either a mental activity (studying, reading books, surfing the internet, etc.) or a physical activity (exercise, gym, yoga, etc.).
It doesn’t matter what activity you choose, what matters is that it’s something you enjoy and care about.
By being active, you temporarily shift your mind to something interesting and enjoyable and remind yourself that you can have fun alone.
Arrange your time so that each day is filled with content – do not leave yourself empty space for boredom and meaningless leisure time, because in such circumstances people tend to indulge in negative, pessimistic thoughts, unnecessary and critical introspection and analysis, and loneliness . Fill in your time as best you can.
Think about what you can do during the day, including commitments, daily chores, but also fun and socializing.
Try doing the activities you did with your ex or someone else, or just find new activities that you enjoy just as much.
When you wake up in the morning, it is desirable that you know what you will do until bedtime today.
They leave no room for black thoughts and analysis of the past.
Bring something new into your life – do something new for yourself, something you’ve never done before, even if it’s just a small thing. It can be a small change, for example: change your hairstyle, buy something you wanted from the clothes, redecorate the apartment, etc.
Take a class, look for new interests, meet a new person, find a new place to go out in town, change businesses, etc.
Introducing innovations like this will make you feel fresher, more independent, and strengthen your attitude that you can have a good time even when you’re not in a relationship.
If you tend to idealize your ex, remember what bothered you about the relationship and why you decided to leave the relationship – so that you no longer perceive your ex unrealistically, remember everything what was bad, what bothered you, what made you suffer, what you couldn’t accept about your ex, what irritated you.
Just explain to yourself why it is good that you are no longer in this relationship.
In this way, you will lessen the lack of your ex and at the same time increase your confidence and sense of freedom.
No matter how badly your ex treated you and betrayed your trust, you don’t need to be angry and hurt because it won’t do you any good. A much more constructive way of looking at things is to simply accept that your expectations have been disappointed, that this is not what you wanted and deserved
Choose to rely more on yourself and encourage yourself when you need it – convince yourself that being alone doesn’t mean you will be alone for the rest of your life, that what What you feel now is fleeting and that you won’t be holding on to it in the near future, almost never mind, convince yourself that there’s a lot you can do for yourself to feel good and that you don’t need other people to make you feel good.
How you feel is primarily up to you, regardless of who you are with or where you are. Your mood mostly depends on what you do and how you feel about yourself and others.
If you’ve just gotten through a breakup, don’t force yourself to start a new relationship or date someone right away—you’re not a computer and you can’t reboot the button.
Feeling bad after a breakup is normal and natural.
It takes a little time and patience to overcome, accept and process it and adjust to a slightly different everyday life. So there’s no need to rush, don’t force yourself because it will boomerang back to you later.
As long as you are recovering from a breakup, you will not be able to start a new relationship, nor will you be able to assess who is right for you and who is not, because the negative emotions related to the breakup are still fresh and you are still under the influence.
It takes a while to regain your inner balance.
