Do we fall in love by chance? According to science, 5 crucial factors determine whether we fall in love or not.
How do we fall in love and, above all, why? Are there factors that determine whether we fall in love with someone or not? We looked for answers in science and discovered some exciting things.
Why do we fall in love?
Researchers believe that falling in love creates a kind of “connection” between two people. After all, you have to get to know each other before you fall in love.
Normally, we humans keep a certain distance from other people because we can never be sure whether the other person is nice to us. So when we fall in love, we automatically approach a person.
After all, we also form groups, communities, and even circles of friends. Humans are simply not meant to be lone fighters and only think about themselves. From a scientific point of view, and in this sense rather less romantic, this whole process primarily serves to preserve our species.
The 5 Factors of Love
For many people, whether you fall in love or not is a matter of fate. But science has also gained some insights from studies that we don’t want to withhold from you. These 5 factors play an immense role in falling in love:
1. Appearance
Even though it’s a well-known cliché and we all probably would have liked something more romantic at the beginning of this list: looks play a big role in falling in love.
The external appearance and the first impression are stored directly in the mind. That’s why things like sparkling eyes or a radiant smile immediately stand out when you first meet someone.
2. Sympathy
For us to fall in love, we naturally have to like the other person – that’s nothing new.
But maybe you know the feeling that you are simply on the same wavelength as a person (or maybe your partner).
The feeling is difficult to describe and can hardly be put into words, but you feel that you have the same “vibe” and can understand each other without many words.
3. Character and personality
To not only admire each other, there must also be a good fit between the two people on a character level.
In other words, personality and character are also decisive factors in whether we fall in love. This includes things like humor and intelligence, but also the ability of our counterpart to empathize.
4. Similarity
Anyone who thought that the saying “opposites attract” was true will unfortunately be disappointed.
Research has shown that similar people stay together longer and have a better chance of having a future together.
5. Familiarity
The more we get to know a person, the more we trust them. This is an essential point in the process of falling in love.
Because only those who trust their partner can form a long-term bond and reveal their true selves. So when you can open up completely to your loved one, the love adventure can begin.
Of course, love can always surprise you and research is based on majorities. So if, for example, you are a couple who don’t have much in common, there is no need to panic.
