We’re not going to lie to each other, love is a complex thing. But is love enough to make a relationship last? Absolutely not !
Are flowers, chocolate and gifts enough to make your relationship strong? Absolutely not !
We tend to have very high expectations of the romantic relationship we’re in, and we often overlook the little things that really make it special.
As we get older, we slowly realize that fairy tales don’t exist. We also realize that the passion we feel at the start of a relationship slowly fades and love takes its place.
You can’t expect romantic dinners every night and your partner to run you a hot bath every Friday, because at some point reality is going to set in.
Eventually, you come to realize that anyone can buy you flowers, but is every man you date capable of putting in the effort to make your relationship last?
Over the years, you have surely had several boyfriends.
Some had a lot of money and some didn’t. You then understood that money cannot buy love. No matter the price of the jewel, if it does not make the effort to conquer you again and again, it is useless.
So the overarching question is, what does it really mean to put in effort in a romantic relationship?
The effort is seen in the small details. Effort is when you both try to make each other happy. And that’s when you’re always trying to look good for your partner, no matter how long you’ve been together.
Because at the end of the day, the scent of the roses he gave you can’t hide the stench of your relationship.
It is therefore necessary to make efforts to allow your couple to evolve and be stronger. But what are these efforts? A man makes efforts for your romantic relationship when he…
- Asks you if you need help in the kitchen, not when he expects you to set the table just because he bought the food.
- Makes you soup and covers you with a blanket when you are sick.
- Pay attention to your needs.
- Cheers you up when you’ve had a bad day.
- Shows you the way when you don’t know where to go.
- Turns off his phone to spend the afternoon with you, and only you.
- Protects you from others and yourself.
- Craft something for you with his hands, because anyone can go to the store and buy you what you want.
- Is genuinely interested in how your day went.
- Doesn’t want to leave for work until you’ve given her a goodbye love.
- Proudly presents you to his family.
- Don’t forget your birthday or party.
- Loves you when you don’t love yourself.
- Makes you feel wanted in the morning when you don’t want anything.
- Listens to your problems and tries to help you solve them.
- Hugs you when you’re sad.
- Supports you in your dreams and ambitions.
- Try to solve your relationship problems.
- Trusts you.
- Love you, in all your states.
It’s the little things that make a relationship last. Putting effort into a relationship is the only way for it to be healthy.
You can turn your real life into a fairy tale by doing the little things that matter to your significant other, because it will show them that you love and appreciate them.
Happy relationships are those in which partners aren’t afraid to say “I’m sorry” when they make a mistake.
Don’t overlook the little effort it takes to say you’re sorry to your significant other. Ultimately, it’s important that your partner sees you as their best friend.
In contrast, a lack of effort in a relationship is a serious problem.
On the other hand, trying too hard in a relationship that just isn’t working is tantamount to avoiding an irreparable breakup.
Do you always have to take the initiative in communication and affection? Do you have to work hard to get your feelings acknowledged?
How to recognize the lack of effort of your man?
When you’re in love, it can be hard to face the truth. You hide your face and you refuse to admit that your partner is lounging quietly while you kill yourself with the effort.
So, I suggest you take a look at the signs below. If you notice these behaviors in your guy, he’s clearly not making any effort to solidify your relationship.
1. You no longer spend romantic evenings.
This is THE alarm signal. He doesn’t try hard enough to make your intimate relationship work. After all, you can’t have an intimate relationship if you don’t take the time to be intimate with your partner.
When was the last time you went to a restaurant together? No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, you need to keep the flame alive.
2. You spend little quality time together.
To have an intimate relationship, you need to spend time with your partner, and when that’s the last thing on their list of priorities, you’re in trouble.
3. He never apologizes and you can’t remember when he last said “I love you” to you.
Good relationships are about being open and vulnerable with your loved one. Saying “I’m sorry” and “I love you” shouldn’t be hard for him.
4. Your man thinks he knows everything about you.
Just because you’ve been in a romantic relationship for a long time doesn’t mean you should stop finding out about your partner.
So your man should try to be your best friend. You can have a great relationship if you both just think of creative topics to talk about.
5. He does nothing to impress you.
Remember you had special nicknames, songs, and foods when you first started dating?
It seems like all of those things are gone now that you’ve been together longer. He no longer cares about making memories and making connections? This is an alarm signal!
6. There is a clear lack of politeness.
We all try to put our best foot forward when we start dating someone, and so we strive to behave at our best.
Still, if you’ve noticed that your partner isn’t as polite as they used to be, it’s time for you to have a serious talk.
7. When you ask him to make an effort, he lets out a sigh of exhaustion.
If just thinking about the effort in a relationship is enough to wear him down, he doesn’t really want to have a healthy relationship.
Unless he doesn’t care about you, he should learn to put effort into a relationship.
How to make effective efforts to make the relationship last?
If you realize that your man is not making an effort for your romantic relationship, here are some tips that can help you get him back on the right track.
But beware ! If you notice that the problem is not in his lack of effort, but in the fact that he does not want to be with you at all, then you simply have to end your relationship.
By the way, the advice I will list below is also for you. If you feel like you’ve put the brakes on in some areas too, here’s a wake-up call on what to do.
So here’s what BOTH of you can do to improve your current relationship situation.
1. Say “I love you” more often.
There shouldn’t be a single day when you don’t say “I love you” to each other. For example, if you end every argument with these words, it can really make a difference.
You can’t tell your partner that you love them too often, so take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way.
Don’t let romance disappear from your relationship.
2. It is important to show affection.
Whether in private or in public, you need to show affection for each other. Feel free to hold hands, love, or hug in public.
It’s another way to show how proud you are of your relationship, and it can only be good for her.
3. Be a priority for each other
To have a serious relationship, you have to put your partner first. You cannot be selfish or self-centered if you want your relationship to succeed.
Put your partner’s needs first and they will meet yours too. I’m not saying your partner should be the center of your universe, but you should be a priority for each other.
4. Both of you should always speak well of each other.
You should never speak ill of the person you are in a relationship with. On the contrary, always try to speak well of her to others.
Of course, he’s not perfect and neither are you, but you can tell the other person directly what’s bothering you; you don’t need to involve other people in your relationship.
5. Surprise the other once in a while
Surprises are what make things interesting in a relationship. You don’t need to spend a lot of money, a simple romantic gesture is enough.
6. Make new experiences together
If you want to be happy in a relationship, it’s understood that you have to go out and do things together.
Snuggling up under a warm blanket while watching TV is fine, but you also have to have new experiences. Find a common interest and do things together.
7. Both make communication a priority.
Communication is one of the most important factors in a successful relationship. It makes your bond so strong that nothing can ever break it. Do not keep secrets from each other and talk about everything.
If you’re not very good with words, you can write. A heartwarming text could start a serious conversation and show you how great it is to be open to each other.
8. You must be best friends.
Good relationships are those in which the partners are also friends, and I’m not just talking about social networks.
You shouldn’t be afraid to mess up and laugh together, and it’s also important to be there for each other in difficult times.