Avoid these 7 types of people to protect your emotional health
In life we all need relationships, we need people who care and want to spend time with us, and in many ways that creates problems.
Far too often, people who want to take advantage of us fool us into believing that they deserve to be part of our inner circle, and that can be emotionally devastating.
Many people will try to tell you that cutting them out of your life is a bad or wrong decision, but the truth is that if you really want to take control of your life, you must learn to separate from them .
Toxic people come in many forms and it can be quite confusing to separate them from the rest, but they are undoubtedly present in our lives.
When it comes to improving your overall emotional state, letting go of the crap and getting rid of the problem is always the best option.
Below I address some of the most commonly perceived but hard-to-identify types of toxic people that we shouldn’t let into our lives.
These are people who have been in our lives since we were born, or simple co-workers with whom we speak from time to time.
You are the only person who can make YOUR decisions and you can choose to remove all the negative and allow in more of the positive if that is what you really want.
1. Manipulators
Manipulative people can be close friends and sometimes even family members. They take advantage of our happiness to feed themselves and make sure the things we do benefit them.
They force us to tear ourselves apart while we are unable to understand why we do the things we do.
Eventually, enough is enough and we need to start doing things for our own benefit and not for the benefit of everyone else.
Manipulators, under the guise of friendship, suck time and energy out of your life. They can be difficult to deal with because they treat you like a friend.
They know what you like, what makes you happy, and what you find funny, but the difference is that they use that information as part of a hidden agenda.
Manipulators always want something from you, and if you look back at your relationships with them, it’s all about take, take, take, with little or no giving.
They will do anything to win you over just so they can crush you.
2. Self-loving egoists
People who only care about themselves are a waste of our time. They don’t care about us or our feelings.
When we ask them for advice, they don’t listen to what we have to say. These types of people always expect us to be there for them, yet refuse to care about anything but themselves.
3. Ticking time bombs
People who are unable to manage their emotions are ticking time bombs in many ways.
If someone in your life makes you wonder if you’re coming home to someone standing at the door throwing things at you, then you know there’s a problem, whether you’re ready to leave or not not.
This should not be tolerated and you should always make sure that you are emotionally on the same wavelength with your partners and other people in your life.
4. Jealous people
People who are jealous only want us to fail in life. They don’t want to see us succeed, nor do they want to offer us support. You don’t deserve a place near our inner circle.
5. Liar
Liars will attack you in more ways than you can imagine. They will say things just because they enjoy it, and the more you try to confront them, the worse it gets. Some of them do it for a reason, others for no reason at all.
6. Gossip girls
Gossip girls do their best to make sure they know every inch of dirt. If they talk to you about someone, they will also talk to others about you.
This is something we all need to be aware of. There’s never any good in belittling the people around you, whether you like them or not.
Gossips take pleasure in other people’s misfortunes. It may be fun at first to dwell on the personal or professional blunders of others, but over time it becomes tiring, gross, and hurtful.
There is too much good out there and too much to learn from interesting people to waste time talking about the misfortunes of others.
7. naysayers
Being surrounded by positive people all the time isn’t a good idea, but too much negativity is bad, too.
Worms are people who never have anything positive to say, who always make things worse, and who aren’t exactly fun to be with.
They are easy to encounter in small outbreaks, but by and large they bring misfortune to anyone they can reach.
How to protect yourself once you spot them
Toxic people drive you crazy because their behavior is so irrational. Make no mistake about it – their behavior really defies reason. So why let her feelings get involved and meddle?
The more irrational and unreasonable someone is, the easier it should be for you to break out of their traps.
Stop trying to beat them at their own game. Distancing yourself emotionally from them and approaching your interactions with them as if they were a science project. You don’t have to react to the emotional chaos – only to the facts.
In order to maintain an emotional distance, one must be aware of it. You can’t stop someone from driving you nuts if you don’t recognize when it’s happening.
Sometimes you will find yourself in situations where you need to regroup and decide how best to proceed. That’s fine, and don’t be afraid to take some time to do it.
Most people feel like they can’t control the chaos just because they work or live with someone.
However, that is far from the truth. Once you identify a toxic person, their behavior will be more predictable and easier to understand.
Then you can think rationally about when and where to put up with them and when not to.
You can set limits, but you must do so consciously and proactively. If you let things happen naturally, you are bound to find yourself engaged in difficult conversations all the time.
When you set boundaries and decide when and where to confront a difficult person, you can control a lot of the chaos.
