6 REASONS TO KEEP DREAMING OF LOVE
Dating can really quickly become annoying.
If you’ve been looking for love for a while without success, you might start to feel hopeless.
But giving up on love is not a good option, especially if it’s important to you!
Going out and meeting people isn’t that easy these days
It might be a bit of an exaggeration to say that courting people don’t exist anymore but let’s be real!
Even with all the options that were supposed to make dating easier and more natural, it had the opposite effect: it became harder to connect and find love.
Many people therefore think that love is not or no longer made for them.
But, through my journey, I ended up discovering things that made me realize that we shouldn’t give up so easily.
Things that helped make my path to love less difficult.
The search for love is an exciting adventure
You can meet new people, go out and have fun dates, and maybe, just maybe find the love of your life.
But dating can also be a huge disappointment and there are times when the journey is more frustrating than fun, especially as you get older.
To find a good relationship, you have to be willing to put in some effort.
But what should you do when you feel you are losing faith in love?
Here are six reasons why you shouldn’t give up on this one.
1. Love teaches lessons
Even if a date doesn’t go the way you wanted or hoped, you can still learn something from everyone you meet.
You don’t need to learn anything that changes your life! It could be discovering a new restaurant or a new way of seeing things.
If you can take advantage of these appointments to learn more about the person and the life and not focus on the potential outcome, you will enjoy the experience much more.
Sure, going through another failed relationship can be a frustrating and depressing experience, but remember, timing is everything.
It’s not because this love is over that everything is to be thrown into oblivion.
So please, next time, instead of looking at your failed relationships as a waste of time, make a list of everything you learned through them.
Maybe you’ve learned to talk about your feelings and be vulnerable with someone else, and maybe you’ve learned that looks aren’t everything.
If the relationship was toxic, you may have learned that you are stronger than you think. Perhaps you have learned what you no longer want and will no longer tolerate in your future relationships.
Take the lessons that love gives you and cherish them.
2. Give yourself time to mature
You may be used to getting what you want when you want it, but I’m sorry to tell you: love doesn’t work that way.
Finding it requires a ton of patience, and it’s not easy.
When you were in your twenties, you may have fallen in love easily. But how did it work for you? Not very well I imagine, if you read these lines.
The more time passes, the more selective you will be about who you want to spend time with and, yes, okay, it will narrow your choices but it will also reduce disappointments.
You may be divorced and a little reluctant to open your heart and trust someone new.
But if you focus on the destination, you’ll miss out on a lot of other things!
Besides, when it comes to love, there is no “destination”.
Once you’re in a relationship, you have new challenges to face and new experiences that come your way.
Working on yourself doesn’t stop when you’re in a relationship, and being in a relationship isn’t necessarily the end goal either.
So enjoy things as they are at the moment, be confident.
If you continue to be the best possible version of you, you will end up “rewarded”.
As for your solo time, it should be used to better learn who you are and grow through each experience you go through.
It’s better than just giving up on love.
3. It’s time to take care of yourself
Yes, yes, that “cliché” again, but… How do you think it’s possible to find the love of your life if you don’t love yourself?
If you don’t love yourself, you won’t be able to love others and you won’t be able to maintain a relationship with anyone.
And for some people, when you have no one to love, it can make you feel bad about yourself and lose your self-esteem.
This is why loving someone is so crucial and also why you shouldn’t give up on love so easily.
You need to work on yourself and develop emotional stability, self-confidence, and communication skills so you can engage with and build relationships with other people.
Once you establish these elements, you’ll feel better about yourself and won’t lose hope of finding someone worth your time.
It won’t be an easy journey to become the person you want to be, but it will be worth it once you get there.
4. Maybe you’re too picky or always make the same mistakes
Time passes and you become more and more straddling the criteria that the chosen one of your heart will have to fulfill.
There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want (or don’t want anymore) but there is a difference between being picky and being too picky.
If you’re still trying to find that mythical version of love, that wildly fantasized version of the perfect man or woman, you’re going to be disappointed.
You will swear that you give up on love because it doesn’t exist.
And indeed, if your criteria are not relevant, you risk looking for a long time…
Do not hesitate to relax your expectations.
I’m not saying you should “sell off” your criteria, but maybe consider your list of grievances again.
If it includes elements such as “he/she will earn this much per year”, “his/her favorite color must be blue”, “he must be at least 1m80 tall and have green eyes”, “she must have a large chest “, let me tell you that you are putting a spoke in your wheels.
Release those expectations!
Don’t try to get EXACTLY what you want and focus on more down-to-earth things.
For instance :
He/she expresses himself without fear, we will have things in common, he/she will make me laugh, etc.
His job, his appearance, where he/she lives… none of that really matters if you like him/her.
5. What is worth is rarely easy to get
The best things in life, the ones that make you feel accomplished, proud of yourself, and inspire you to do better are always hard to come by.
Getting a degree, running long distances, staying fit or losing weight, breaking a bad habit, learning something new like scuba diving or how to speak another language… These are all things that take time to accomplish.
But you feel so satisfied when you complete this challenge!
The same is true about finding the right relationship.
Deciding to wait for someone who fulfills you instead of dating the first person because you feel lonely takes courage and strength.
Just like it takes courage to break up with someone you love but who is ultimately bad for you.
It takes effort to be patient but you will be happy with the result.
6. You only need one person to find “THE” person
Each relationship or encounter that “fails” brings you a little closer to your prince charming.
You may have to love a few frogs to reach it, but you’ll learn more about your likes and dislikes.
Your date last Friday sucked and you’ll never see that person again, but you know what?
The next meeting could be the last. It could be the moment when you will feel a chemistry like no other.
It only takes one person to steal your heart and change your world.
Think about it.
It may take some work to open yourself up to love again, but romance can show up in places you can’t even imagine.
Feelings can develop unexpectedly.
Something that comes back when you listen to people are the love stories in which the people involved have unexpectedly found their significant other.
Many people who had given up on love were surprised and found that they could fall in love again.
The human heart, even damaged, can still start beating again under the right circumstances.
Don’t become your worst enemy
It’s so easy to put yourself down when nothing in the love department is going on.
But don’t be so hard on yourself for this reason.
Only when and only when you see yourself as whole and complete on your own, will you be ready for a partner.
When we focus on being the best version of ourselves, when we’re not trying to force love, that’s often where it finds us.
But always remember that you are worthy of love.
Make sure you feel smug and accomplished as a person before looking for something. This will allow you to start a relationship on a healthy basis.
Resilience is the key to finding love.
Enjoy the journey and focus on yourself and your personal growth, absorbing the lessons each relationship will teach.
Finding love can be difficult but don’t be discouraged: no one is meant to be alone forever unless you really believe it.