5 Signs Your Guy Doesn’t Want to Be in a Relationship
Does he start acting weird around you? Has he stopped trying to be in a relationship? Have you become more anxious around him? If the answer is yes, it’s time to consider where your relationship is. Here’s how to know for sure if the man you’re dating is interested in you or if you’re just having an affair.
Have you thought lately that maybe your guy doesn’t even want to be in a relationship?
Did you go into this relationship with high hopes and dreams, but realize your guy might not be on the same wavelength?
When many of us think our guy doesn’t want to be in a relationship, we tend to ignore any signs that he might be. We tell ourselves that our person wants to be with us after all and that we can still keep them if we just show them how much we love them.
Unfortunately, that never works.
You mustn’t ignore the warning signs that your guy doesn’t want to be in a relationship.
If you do that, you’ll waste a lot of time.
Here are 5 signs your guy doesn’t want to be in a relationship that you shouldn’t ignore to get the life and love you want!
1. He disappears.
One thing I can tell you for sure is that when a guy wants to be in a relationship, he wants to spend as much time with you as possible.
If your guy disappears, if he doesn’t answer your texts or calls, if he makes excuses for not being with you, then your guy doesn’t want to be in a relationship.
A client of mine fell having love with an old friend. He kept telling her that if he was in a relationship, she was the one he wanted to be in a relationship with. She took it to mean that they were working towards building a relationship together because she wanted it.
But he only talked, but didn’t put it into practice. He kept making excuses about why he couldn’t come to her. He was in rehab and kept telling her he was working with people at his rehab clinic, even though he had promised to be with her.
He told her he would come by later, but then he didn’t come. When he did, he let her take care of him but didn’t do anything in return. My client became increasingly angry. She knew he didn’t want a relationship, but she just couldn’t accept it.
Instead, she burrowed deeper and deeper, believing that if she just held on, he would change his mind. Ultimately, it took her a total breakdown and he had to tell her straight out that he didn’t want a relationship with her so that she would realize she was wasting her time.
she walked away It was hard for her and it took a while, but eventually she did it. She has now found the love of her life and is getting married in October.
2. He just wants to stay home.
A guy who wants to be in a relationship likes to show off his woman. He’s dying to get out there and tell the world that he’s chosen this person – and they’ve chosen him!
If your person only wants to stay home, watch movies, eat dinner, and go to bed early, there’s a good chance they don’t want to be in a relationship. By staying at your house where he’s being cared for and having love, your guy can maintain the appearance of a relationship to keep you happy without actually being in a relationship.
So if your guy doesn’t want to date you anymore or introduce you to his friends or family, chances are he doesn’t want a relationship.
If you realize that, you should break up with him. NOW!
3. You feel insecure.
Many of us ignore the warning signs that appear.
When we feel that our persona is drifting away from us, we tend to lean into them even more, rather than taking notes and walking away from them. We’re nicer, we take care of them, we go out of our way to be there for them, we give them more love, we do whatever we can with the belief that they’ll be in a relationship with us if we only love them enough.
I know that when my ex-husband told me he wanted a divorce, I did everything I could to be the best wife I could be. I dressed up for him when he came home at the end of the day. I had love with him a lot more than I used to. I tried to be friendly, direct, and open. He told me he wanted a divorce, but I didn’t want to believe him. I just believed that if I gave him enough, he would stay.
But he didn’t.
All of this made me feel terrible about myself. I knew that I was giving more than I was getting and that in doing so I was degrading myself. It got worse and worse over time until I finally left feeling just a shell of myself.
So if the other person makes you feel insecure, it’s a sign that they don’t want to be in a relationship.
4. He doesn’t make you his priority.
Be honest. Is your guy your top priority? Does he put you above your friends, your dog, your family, and your work? (well, maybe not about your dog)
Of course, you do. He’s the person you love.
But, let me ask you, does he do that too? Are you the most important thing in his life and does he show you that regularly?
Think about it carefully, because this is very important. For two people to be in a healthy relationship, they must make each other a priority. They strive to put their relationship above all else, sometimes even above the kids.
Relationships are very stressful, and without constant effort, they can fall apart. If your guy puts you above softball, work, friends, golf, etc., then he doesn’t want to be in a relationship.
People who want to be in a relationship act like they want to be in a relationship.
5. He tells you.
Has your guy maybe told you over and over that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship?
Even though he said so, should he still come and go, hang out with you, have love with you, and let you take care of him? And are you telling yourself that you know from his actions and despite his words that he wants to be with you? If yes, then you are deluding yourself.
When someone tells you something directly, you should listen to them. If he tells you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, no amount of love you give him can sway him from his thoughts.
So if he’s honest and direct with you, believe him! Don’t think things will be any different with you
I know it’s the last thing you want to hear about your guy not wanting to be in a relationship, but it’s true.
At the beginning of a relationship, we have such high hopes and dreams for the future. We believe that we may have finally found who we are, and that makes us overjoyed. Letting go can be very, very difficult.
If he doesn’t make you his priority, if he disappears, if he just wants to stay home and you feel insecure, it’s very clear that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. And I can promise you that once he has already decided on you, there is nothing you can do about it.
I would encourage you to go now! You want to find love and happiness so don’t waste another minute with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.
I know walking away is scary. You are afraid of the pain and of being alone forever. But I can promise you that the only way you’ll be alone forever is if you try to keep this man.
You can do it, I promise you.